
IRC Chat Log, March 26, 1998
| Jonathan | OK! Welcome to another in this ongoing series without a series... in the IRC chats on NLP -- this one's about an oldie but goodie :) where we learn how to deliver information in artfully vague ways... towards a certain end. Now. From the start I'd like to point out that this is about inducing trance. And that whoever reads this -- whoever is interested in trance... should be aware that if you plan on doing any of this in any "official capacity" -- ya oughtta be aware of the local/state laws on such things. Caveat ASIDE, lets get into some cool material here! Whenever you're using NLP to either BE PERSUASIVE or help someone ACHIEVE CHANGE ON THEIR OWN... You wanna have an outcome in mind, right? As in, WHAT DO I WANT from this situation -- for myself, for that person (or persons), and for ALL of us? HOW CAN I STRUCTURE WHAT I'M DOING AS WIN-WIN? Just as in a double-bind where you wanna structure their choice as a win-win for themselves, regardless of their choice -- they end up with the positive outcome -- you can create a double-bind for you AND them -- so EVERYONE WINS! Right? Who doesn't believe that?
| _Stile_ | i don't believe i don't believe that
| Jonathan | ok you can stay, Stile ;)
| Dan_26 | would you say that's an absolute always (ie, ALWAYS have a win-win outcome in mind for all involved parties before doing this)
| Wolfadom | you can belive it or not, its still takes you to the same conclusion...
| _Stile_ | hmmm "improve-improve" ala SOM log ?
| Jonathan | I'd say its like Kirk and the "Kobiatsu Maru" ;) He didn't believe in the no-win situation. But to be human -- you can always walk away with diminishing returns on your investment of time...
| sabren | it's just a matter of being able to generate enough choices.. are you flexible enough to have win-win? and creative enough? and if you are, that's at least one win right there. :)
| Jonathan | And do you have enough time Sabren ;)
| sabren | true... or a quick enough strategy for finding the best opportunities. :)
| Jonathan | In any case from a point of view of win-win -- we can think of our outcome from artfully vague communication and begin the process... of learning from other people's deep structure (using tools like the Meta-Model(tm) in a way that helps us begin to make a model of their values, strategies, thoughts, etc. And if we want to be persuasive, we can use language tools like the Milton Model to deliver information in (a) an artfully vague way and (b) in a way that MATCHES/PACES their deep structure and then LEADS it into new discoveries and awarness... Now. On chats I tend to go the conscious route so I don't have a bunch of zombies wondering what they got -- and I'm going to go through the Milton Model pretty consciously -- within each point/section we can play around with the language. So within each Milton Pattern I'm going to ENCOURAGE everyone to contribute examples, etc...
| Stefan | But we'll get it unconsciously, dont worry.
| Jonathan | ;) Stefan! And then I'll keep the pace moving as we move along. Now. As some of you may know... I spent some time in Architecture School at Cornell. And a FAMOUS ARchitect graduated from there YEARS ago -- some 30 years ago -- and about 10 years ago -- several of the top architects were named as top candidates for a MAJOR commission -- out in Los Angeles! (atop a mountaintop site). For the new J.Paul Getty museum. And this famous architect was known for building ONLY white Buildings. Richard Meier, in case anyone knows the name. Most people thought - as he proposed - that it was because he LOVED the play of light on white marble surfaces. In Architecture school, we all presupposed it was because he didn't understand ANYTHING about color. ;) So a running joke in the industry was when they awarded the commission (virtually UNLIMITED budget -- I mean, he razed the mountaintop and carved a CAMPUS into the site) ... the awarded the commission TO Richard Meier... and they told him... we want you to build it... but you can't build a white building.
| Jonathan | (1) The Inverse of the META MODEL(tm) ...And these additional Language Patterns: | (2) PRESUPPOSITIONS (3) INDIRECT ELICITATION PATTERNS (4) PATTERNS IN METAPHOR Jonathan | I won't be going over that here -- except to say -- check out the other chat on the chatlog pages -- which covers this... and instead of thinking about recognizing the deletions/distortions/generalizations... think about USING/CREATING them in specific ways.
| Jonathan | As you were thinking about posting some comments which gave examples of presuppositions... I wonder whether each of you will post one, or two...
| _Stile_ | as you notice the way the light reflects off your screen, you might wonder how much money you'll decide to send me tomorrow morning
| Jonathan | Presuppositions are useful because they provide a sense of already knowing/believing something that may not yet be true. And sometimes this additional belief can help sway other people towards the presupposition (especially if they're undecided, right?)
| sabren | it's possible, but more likely that we'll decide to post after someone paves the way
| Jonathan | Presupposing I haven't already written you a check, Stile? One or the other of your shoulders will begin to feel more relaxed.
| _Stile_ | that too :) I wonder which will go first
| Jonathan | Didn't it?
| sabren | i can never remember whether it's easier to generate presuppositions or to enjoy them...
| maw | and as you are reading this, while wondering what maw will come up with, you probably already begin to realise that a major twist has already happened in the line before, that you now frantically begin to read.
| Jonathan | After you've read this chat log twice again & again, I wonder if you'll be ready to see CATS at that point? OK -- lets get the lurkers to ask questions -- if what we've been demonstrating isn't yet obvious?
| sabren | in any case, after you remeber i'm just presupposing, you'll be even more inclined to follow my advice.. :)
| Jonathan | Any questions from the quiet brigade? hehhe Nice one, sabren
| _Stile_ | hehe -- presupposing a quiet brigade exists there :)
| Jonathan | OK if there aren't any questions --
| hsfear | Can presupps just be supposed, or do they need to be called out as in your examples.
| Jonathan | Pre-Suppositions typically are what you DO NOT HEAR. Lets jump back a bit. NLP makes a distinction between SURFACE STRUCTURE of LANGUAGE (everything you hear) and DEEP STRUCTURE (everything you DON'T hear).
| Wolfadom | yah everone's presups were too obvious
| Jonathan | Pre-Suppositions usually are the things that show up ONLY in the deep structure.
| _Stile_ | presupposing odin knows something, and odin is a deity
| Jonathan | So how about this: I'll make a couple of statements.... and YOU all attempt to identify the presuppositions in what I'm typing...
| sabren | and that we don't know what he knows, stile
| Jonathan | OK?
| _Stile_ | and you don't know what he knows
| sabren | and that we're not dieties.. :)
| Wolfadom | If I say, I enjoyed the ball game. what am I presupping? that I WENT TO a ball game
| _Stile_ | yeah :)
| Jonathan | It's EASY to set up volunteer events where we can help others in need.
| Stefan | And, as I imagine that image, of patterns pouring, in your mind.
| Dan_26 | or that you saw a ballgame, or heard it, or experienced it in some manner
| Jonathan | What are the PRESUPS in "It's EASY to set up volunteer events where we can help others in need."
| sabren | well, we can help others in need.
| Wolfadom | presup - you have set up volunteer events before
| _Stile_ | there are others in need, we can help them, it's POSSIBLE to set up volunteer events
| sabren | ... that you have some experience with it...
| Wolfadom | that you WANT to help others in need; that other events might be more difficult to set up
| sabren | that there are volunteer events where we can't help others in need...
| Jonathan | That I have done other things that have been more difficult... (yes Wolf ;)
| sabren | good call.. easy compared to what..? :)
| Wolfadom | yay
| Jonathan | Are we in need or are others in need?
| Wolfadom | others
| Jonathan | Are you sure? Not from the language structure.
| _Stile_ | we may also be in need
| Wolfadom | <-- confused
| ShadRap | we can help our own kind...
| Wolfadom | <--- is in need of explination
| Jonathan | where we can [.....] in need
| sabren | we can help others in need.... we can help others (while) in need.... it would be a stretch i think..
| _Stile_ | we can help others in need = we may be in need, but not very strongly presupposed here
| Jonathan | agreed.
| sabren | oh! ah! no!
| ShadRap | we're all in need... we could help everyone else in need too.
| Wolfadom | I agree with stile
| sabren | because if there are OTHERS in need, then others compared to what? answer: us.
| Wolfadom | let's all help each other out, ok?
| Jonathan | hehheh
| _Stile_ | i like that idea :)
| Jonathan | yes. Good job guys.
| sabren | :)
| Jonathan | Examples of things to look for (HIGH LEVEL) | (a) SubOrdinate Clauses of Time (b) Ordinal Numerals (c) Use of "OR" (d) Awareness Predicates (e) Adverbs and Adjectives (f) Change of time verbs and adverbs (g) Commentary Adjectives and Adverbs Questions about the above? Wolfadom | i wonder if you can give us some examples...
| _Stile_ | double whammy :)
| Jonathan | (you'd learn how to use the above elegantly in a training, of course, and I do want to cover everything so lets keep it brief here. Before you've integrated all this at a behavioral level in a way that makes it so that afterwards you've begun to enjoy these skills TWICE as much as now... I want to know what you'll have done to cause that to have that JUST happened, didn't it?
| sabren | i have a question about that long sentence you just made.
| Wolfadom | yah its a good example of some stuff ... lets pick at it! Before you've integrated all this PRESUP you will integrate all of this
| sabren | i know how i'd answer this... but i'm curious about other people... do you think about whether or not what you're saying makes any sense? or do you let them worry about it? or are there other possiblities?
| _Stile_ | I'm shutting down consciously and takes the whole thing in... too much for conscious effort at 11:30 at night
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