Calibration skills download question

[terryocarroll]

What audience is the calibration skills downloadable mp3 product intended for? I notice it was recorded at a master practitioner seminar, is it only intended for people at that level? I tend to miss a lot of non-verbal information when speaking to others and want to improve my skill in this area, is this a suitable product, and if not, can you suggest one?

[jaltfeld]

Hi Terry,

Thanks for the great questions. Let's see if I can explain its suitability, or not, sufficiently. The answers do depend a bit on you the listener.

First point -- this recording by itself will not make any customer/listener a better calibrator. There is no recording out there that by itself will magically do the work for you. But if you're someone who is perfectly happy to "recreate" our described exercise drills with friends or family, I believe you will become measurably and significantly better at nonverbal calibration!

What you'll hear in these recordings includes Doug O'Brien begin_of_the_skype_highlighting     end_of_the_skype_highlighting and myself, as we lead students through a series of exercises designed to improve calibration skills. They will help anyone improve their level of calibration skills. These exercises are all described in simple, plain English. What's more or less sophisticated between "new student" or "practitioner" or "master practitioner" levels of calibration skills -- aren't the words we're using, or the exercise drills themselves, but the levels of distinctions inside our minds as we improve. In the beginning, we only see the most obvious behaviors/distinctions. Then we make finer & finer sets of distinctions/observations, as we improve. Getting better at calibrating others is literally a matter of doing more & more drills over time, to continually sharpen your perceptions and make further refinements to the sets of distinctions you make.

Initially, you're just noticing the obvious nonverbals, then more subtle nonverbals, and in doing so, you begin to be able to more accurately sense congruence vs. incongruence (even if you can't yet explain why). Eventually, you're improving enough to detect particular emotional state shifts. Later, to detect lies, or detect hidden information. Beyond that, you can almost hear people's internal dialogue as they move. Or see the pictures they make in their mind's eye. And there are other applications.

So yes, I'd say this is a suitable product, IF you're willing and able to go out & practice what's taught in them, with others. And in the case of this product, more so than some of my other products, it would be helpful to have a listening partner or two, with whom to do these exercises.

[terryocarroll]

Thanks for the detailed answer, Jonathan. Yes, practice is necessary, I was mostly concerned that I would not have the necessary background to understand it. I saw your list of exercises for similar stuff in the free NLP articles section. I'll probably get this and do the exercises as a supplement to the exercises in the Flirting DVDs.